Hi there! Me again.
This one’s a shortie but a goodie; tips on finding a supportive community.
And no, I don’t just mean a group of creatures that look or act like you.
When I finally split off from my old coven, I was a bit...lost. We had prowled together, sure, but we weren’t really a community. We weren’t supportive of each other, we were in competition with each other. When I escaped the fires of the old church, I wasn’t sure what to do or how to be, and just as lost as when I was still a human. Only now, I couldn’t go out in the daylight. And had to drink blood.
I was lucky to be found by the Vegan Vampire that eventually took me in; I was sporting rat blood and eating flies to stay alive because I never really learned how to hunt on my own. It was a struggle at first, learning that I could actually rely on someone to help me. Not just with food, but with withdrawal, with anger, with abandonment. Several things from my previous life had carried over to my new life without me even knowing, and many of them fueled my actions as an undead. Only this time I didn’t have the human sensibilities to keep me back.
Anyway. This isn’t about me. Well, it is a little, because there’s a few mistakes I made in my afterlife I don’t want you to follow, especially if you’re struggling with the switch from Vampirism to Veganism, and this one in particular is about finding a supportive community.
First: Suspicion only gets you so far. While it’s true that you can’t trust everyone, you’ve got to learn how to trust someone. Even in the afterlife, there’s others out there that want to hurt you in one way or another, and having someone to back you up or help you out is a valuable resource. Trust it. Trust your instinct. But be cautiously optimistic; look for warning signs of control or jealousy issues, as in our world this can result in physical harm to innocent bystanders. Learn how to listen and watch your potential community, and if they seem like they’re getting a little too zealous for you (your time, your resources, your mind), it might be time to vanish until things calm down.
Second: If they’ve proven that they’re just trying to help and not control you, trust them. Don’t slap the hand that’s stretched to help you, especially if you’ve done it multiple times and they keep coming back. I nearly blew it when the Vegan that tried to help me felt stung one too many times. He was willing to put up with me one last time, and that one last time was when I realized what he was offering. He was letting me live in his house, he was finding me blood packets despite his personal beliefs, he gave me full range of his facilities and garden, and was even willing to teach me how to survive in the world on my own. I nearly blew it, and I don’t want any of you to blow it if you get a chance like that. So, like I said, if they’ve proven they genuinely want to help, take them up on it. It sounds so backwards with our world, but some out there simply want to be kind. I ask you, don’t turn your back on it and you’ll be rewarded ten-fold.
Third: Make sure you give as good as you get. A community doesn’t mean one person takes while the rest give; that’s some kind of tyranny or animalistic hierarchy. If you show you’re willing to contribute, the rest of the community will be more accepting of your inclusion. Listen to what the individuals want and need, then do what you can to deliver. Even if it’s not expressly asked for, and not the specific need expressed, they’ll be grateful you tried and they’ll know they can rely on you later on.
Of course, there’s more to it than just those three things, but I feel like those are the basic lessons I learned and can pass on in a single blog post.
As always, if you want to find out more about us, you can always find at least one of the Vegan community in an underground market. Some have a lot more stories to tell, and some have lived some very interesting lives, from both sides of the fence.
Stay green my nonliving friends,
Trevor the Vegan Vampire
Turned to the vegan lifestyle near the end of 2013, never looked back. Working to spread the love. Big believer that shame does no one good and peace is the way to a happy after-life.